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How to Get Over a Quilt Retreat Hangover

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My son, Michael James, probably about 18 months old

Ugh, it’s Monday after an amazing quilt retreat at Honey Hill. I’ve been on several retreats and I always take Friday off to travel to the site and come home on Sunday. Then I always wish I had taken Monday off too so I could recover from the weekend! The feeling you have on Monday when you have to go back to work after a quilt retreat is what I call a Quilt Retreat Hangover. No, alcohol is not even required for this lethargic effect that hits you when you realize you have to return to reality bright and early Monday morning (or Sunday night). If your Monday morning job is doing laundry and entertaining young children or like mine, going in to work by 8:30 am, it’s always a difficult adjustment to get back to that routine. Thankfully the only real effect is tiredness, not sensitivity to light or sound or nausea (if that is the case, maybe you should have done more sewing and less actual drinking).

I mean, here is how my weekend went (note the time references):

Friday – Arrive at the retreat at 4:30 pm, stay up until 4:30 am trying to finish that last row (of course my bobbin ran out after sewing about 4 inches so I just decided that was a sign to wait until the morning)

Saturday – Woke up excited around 9:30 am despite going to sleep at 4:30 am. Who needs to SLEEP when you can SEW?? Stayed up until roughly 2:30 am working on a project which, deep down I KNEW I couldn’t really make any serious progress on because I managed to leave ALL my lime green fabrics at home (hmm, maybe I should have read my previous post about packing for a retreat).

Sunday – Due to the previous two days of staying up past my normal 11 pm bedtime I was a little tired and slept until 10 am.  I mean, when you don’t have a kid jumping on your face at 7 am, it’s amazingly easy to sleep in! Plus, the room was pleasantly dark, at home my bedroom is full of daylight by 7 am (which is why the kid wakes up). Finally hit the road around 1 pm, and made it home around 6:30 pm (because of my detour to the quilt shop and some heavy traffic on the way home). For some strange reason I stayed up until 1:30 am on Sunday night, not the best idea when I knew I needed to wake up by 6:30 am today.

Of course, when I got home, I was instantly back to being Mom and wife again. No easing back into the routine for this girl. Apparently my child missed me so much that the normally fairly independent toddler became a Klingon. While I appreciate the sentiment, it was still difficult to carry around a 40 lb child or have him following me around like a little shadow.

So, you’re probably wondering when I’m going to get to the part about how to combat this effect of being extra tired on Monday morning. Truth is, I don’t really know how to get over it. Here are a few suggestions though:

1) COFFEE, COFFEE, and more COFFEE (or just the usual dark roast from Starbucks)

2) I strongly believe that taking Monday off from work will help transition back to reality. (even if it is delaying the inevitable)

3) Maybe working from home would help (in my case that would mean being able to sleep in an extra hour) if your job allows that option.

4) Going to bed as early as possible on Sunday night (for some reason I was up until 1:30 am last night, unpacking and chatting with hubs)

5) Spend as much time with child, husband, and/or pets as possible on Sunday night. Put the phone away and “be present” for the family because you were just immersed in a quilt/IG/FB/girl time weekend and they missed you!

In the end, how you cope with the Monday Quilt Hangover may be different than how I do it. The best thing is that just getting away from mommy duty for a couple days was very relaxing and helped me recharge my battery. I have some mommy guilt but I know that if I don’t take some time to recharge and hang out with adults who have the same interests that I do and have some girl time, it makes it harder to be a loving mom and wife.

How about you, do YOU have any suggestions for a Quilty Hair of the Dog remedy for a Quilt Retreat Hangover?

I’m looking forward to hearing your response. And thanks for stopping by to read my Packing for a Quilt Retreat post!

Happy Stitches,

Anna

Woman vs WoMOM

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Confession:

Sometimes I feel like I have two personalities that are at odds with each other.

One of those is my professional self. I get up every morning, get ready, dress in heels (most days) and go to work where I sit at a computer for roughly 8 hours then run out the door to get on the bus for the 30 minute commute home.

This professional self does the job and gets paid to help pay the bills, which include paying for daycare for my almost 3 year old son.

My other self? That’s the WoMOM self. *yeah I didn’t really even mention the wife self because she usually gets pushed to the far back*

The Mom self, after getting the Work self ready, wakes up the toddler, changes his diaper and gets him ready for daycare. I take him to “school” (which usually means carrying him in while wearing heels, such a fun thing to do, especially when it’s rainy and cold), then in the afternoon when I get home around 6:30, he’s home and I have to change his diaper and make sure he has dinner and brushes his teeth.

On the weekends, I get to be Mom full time, because even though Dad is there and is supportive of us, the boy really likes Mom more right now. Dad is the one who makes meals for us and there have been weeks when he’s had to travel and I’ve had to feel the full reality of what it would be like to be a single parent, that is NOT fun!

There are times when I get to be the Quilter Mom who spends precious time at the sewing machine making magical quilt blocks appear. The few days we had off on January 1st and 2nd was awesome. My toddler actually played by himself with his new cars he got for Christmas for a couple of hours straight! (Normally, when I sit down at the sewing machine, no matter what he’s doing he’ll get up and come over to request attention)

I haven’t figured out how to get these different personalities (or roles I guess I should call them) to play nicely together. Commuting and working 40+ hours a week is sort of exhausting, which explains why I typically fall asleep around 10 PM and most of the time while on the couch just vegging out and have very little time to myself or to spend with my DH.

But I’m determined that in 2015 I’m going to figure out how to get some sort of balance. Even if that means that I spend a few more minutes in the morning trying to fix my hair (I actually bought a flat iron last night and used it today for the first time in my life) or learning how to tie a scarf a different way (Pinterest I LOVE you!)

My boss is only a year older than me, she has three children (twins who are 2 and a kindergartner, all girls) and she still manages to come to work looking fabulous every day! EVERY DAY! She wears make up and her hair looks awesome and she wears pretty clothes.

I should be able to do that. I only have 1 child and he’s a boy, so his clothes and hair don’t require as much attention. (Be honest, it’s true) I just don’t put the attention I should on myself because I’m so busy with my daily routine.

Well, thanks for letting me ramble today. For those of you who follow my blog, I really appreciate knowing that people read it. I’m also documenting my efforts to fight the frump on Instagram with the tag #fightingfrumpmom If you want to take some steps to fight the frump, feel free to use the tag as well!

My next step is a good haircut and some better make up! (Oh and more practice with the flat iron)

Finally I’d love to hear if you have suggestions for fighting the frump and finding balance between a full time job as mom and as a “career woman.”

Happy Stitches,

Anna